How to survive a broken heart?
They say, the only permanent thing in this world is change. Change can be a positive or a negative thing, when we are talking about commitment. The couple may have to make some changes for the betterment of their relationship. On the other hand, if the change goes the other way, sorry for the two of you. It can be a change of heart, from coupledom to splitsville.
So, what to do? Well, I'm not a relationship expert nor a love guru, but these pointers may do help you, as they did to me.
1. Cry a river, a sea, or an ocean, 'til you get dehydrated.
Cry, don't be shy. Haha. It's normal for a human being to cry, if he or she is in pain. Cry for yourself or share it with a friend, it will somehow make you feel better. Just know when to stop. You don't want to be hospitalized due to fluid volume deficit, do you?
2. Stop pretending you're okay, when in fact you're not.
So what if he's okay, and you're not? Even a broken heart undergoes a grieving process, too (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and lastly, acceptance). Give your heart some time to heal. 1 day, perhaps?
3. Delete him in your life.
You can't ctrl+z things, you know. Your memories with him will always be part of your past. So, better delete na lang. Pictures, gifts, love letters, everything that reminds you of him, shall be eliminated. Change your phone number, and don't dare text or call him! (I hope hindi mo kabisado ang digits nya.)
4. Go out with your bffs.
That's what friends are for. They will surely cheer you up.
5. Be an awesome ex.
Be the best that you can be. Fix yourself, emotionally, and physically. You don't want to hear others say, "Kaya 'sya iniwan, kasi ang chakabells nya." Noooo! Hahaha. Make your boyfriend regret that he broke up with you. :p
6. Put your past in the past, not in the present.
There's no turning back. 'Pag break, break na. Wala nang balikan. Second chances do exist, but you should learn your lessons. As one common adage says, "There are so many fishes in the ocean", so why settle for less?
7. Don't ever expose your bitterness.
May it be on facebook, twitter, or tumblr, don't give him the satisfaction of seeing how miserable you are without him. Stop posting some bitter quotes, 'coz it will not make the situation better. You will just look like a desperate somebody begging for attention. And, don't make war with the new girl (just in case meron,) 'coz such actions will give you a total humiliation.
8. How about diversional activities?
If all else fail, distract yourself from thinking of him. Make yourself busy, as in super duper ultra mega busy. :)
9. Find a replacement.
Again, a replacement, not a rebound. Fish in the ocean, and make sure you'll have a good catch.
10. Pray.
Wala na kasi ako maisip. Haha! But seriously, prayers are effective. Pray for your common sense to return. :p
Final words?